I've been completely out of control lately. Life has just been throwin' me Nolan-Ryan-Style fastballs and I'm standing in the batters box with the bat on my shoulder. It's tough to complain when my weekends have been spent in New York, in Dallas and soon to be spending my weekend in Nashville. It's just crazy because my weeknights fly by in a flash too. I have a women's Bible study one night, community group (group Bible study) one night, Dave has class one night, and then add in any other social obligations and before we know it our week nights and weekends are spent running 90 to nothin'.
It's lots of great stuff, don't get me wrong. But at some point (and that point, for me, was last Tuesday night...) it all becomes too much and I reached boiling point. Last Monday I finally had a night at home. My suitcase was still unpacked after my trip to NYC, the kitchen was a mess, the floor needed to be vacuumed and I was sitting on the couch, after making dinner, watching DWTS. I looked up and in the right corner of the living room I saw a cobweb. I literally had not.one.single.ounce. of energy to go clean it. So, I sat there and I finished watching the very sub-par talent on this season and then went to bed.
On Tuesday, I got a call from our fertility nurse that put me over the edge and I just started crying on the phone with her. That's when I realized I was out of control in more areas than just my messy house. It seemed like every aspect of my life was overwhelming & in complete chaos. I cried to my friends about it on Tuesday night at Bible study and like the wonderful friends that they are, they just listened. I so appreciate them listening and letting me cry without thinking I'm (tooooo) crazy. I know they have to think I'm a little whack-a-do let's be honest. That night, I decided I needed to get a grip.
I have absolutely no control over our fertility situation and I know that. I realized that me asking God to take this burden and deal with it means trusting Him with it daily. That entire situation is His problem to handle and I trust Him more than anyone else with the future of our family.
It felt so good to put Him in control of every aspect of my life. An enormous burden was lifted and it actually gave me the desire and the energy to "move" and start dealing with other out of control areas, so I decided to get a move on it.
It's amazing how when you just get started and make one change everything else follows. After mentally getting my act together I decided to physically start with our house. We were finally in town for the weekend so I rallied the troops (Dave) and I spoke his love language (an excel spreadsheet) and we got down to business.
The spreadsheet listed every room in our house. I outlined what needed to be done in each room and assigned the duty to either myself or to Dave. I knew that it was going to be tough and I didn't want us to get side tracked. I also wanted it to be very clear what my expectations were and the things I wanted Dave to help me with.In all, it was a nutso weekend! We worked our tails off...and the end result is a truly refreshing and amazing home and overall refreshing feeling in my soul. That may sound silly but it's how I feel. Last night, we went for a walk and I told Dave I just felt SO productive. We got rid of things we don't need, we cleaned, cleaned, cleaned, our pantry is organized, our refrigerator and freezer are cleaned out...we are completely organized and I was able to go for a walk and know dinner was going to be ready in the crock pot when we got home. PHEW!
Why in the world don't we do things like that more often??
How was your weekend?
26 comments:
You worked so hard...and I'm glad you were able to have such a productive weekend! I just hate those moments when we've been going 90 to nothing and I feel out of control!
Looks like our teams will meet in the World Series...;o)
My goodness, I'm SO impressed! You guys ROCK! There's no way I could ever convince Ryan to spend an entire day, yet alone a whole weekend helping me clean. If he's not shooting or killing something, it's like his world will end. Kudos to Dave for being husband of the year!
Oh Tiffany, I totally know how it is. Infertility makes you crazy and out of control! Glad you are using it for something productive! :) I am praying for you guys!!
First... saying we are a "women's Bible Study" makes me feel like 98 years old.
B... I do NOT think you're wack-a-doo.
Thrice... I do believe you should have pointed out that your "job assignments" were your names Combo Loco and Loco. We may have needed an update on that backstory.
IV... I can't wait for lasagna bliss tomorrow night. Or whatever your binder calls it.
WHOOT!
p.s. I died at the title of this blog. HAHAHAH.
Wow, that's ambitious. I always feel like when I clean the closet I make more of a mess and just want it to go away rather than finish it. Good job!
Wow - super impressed and inspired! Being productive is such a great feeling. Oh, and I'm printing the menu planner right now. Excited!
Way to go lady! And a gold star to Dave for getting on the cleaning bandwagon! I bet it feels awesome to have your house in order and clean. I need to follow your lead. This place could use a good scrub!
LOVE the notebook! So organized! ..you've inspired me to get my act together- it looks like my closets exploded!
I love menu planning, making list and all the stuff. I always feel so productive. Love your folder.
I absolutely feel 100% more in control of my life when things are organized! It's like everything just flows better when everything is as it should be. Keeping you both in my prayers :)
Oh my gosh, you are so organized! :) Excel...ha ha...sounds like my boyfriend lol
I COMPLETELY know how you feel! We had one of these weekends earlier this month and I felt so much more in control after. I love living life, but sometimes it become too overwhelming.
Your excel spreadsheet is amazing - I'm so inspired!
Congrats on accomplishing so much. Hope you are able to enjoy a clean and organized house one night this week. :)
Isn't a clean house just like a fresh start in life. I love how it has a way of getting my butt in gear.
Praying for you, and yes, God is in control and he has a plan for you.
P.S. LOVE your menu planning. I'm a menu planning nerd too. :)
you are a girl after my own heart...this read like a page of my life not so many years ago :) Except I don't think I could ever get Cory quite on board with cleaning like Dave! Although close :)
Love the spread sheet, great way to get organized.. So using that next time!! hehe
~Anya
That menu planner looks like the perfect organization tool! Great DIY project to tackle sometime soon
Oh goodness...I have these moments all too often. In fact I just had one of these last week. I love your spreadsheet. Soooo something I would do haha. Glad you are feeling more on track!
Everybody should use spreadsheets as a love language. Clearly it's quite helpful!
So WOWed by your new organization! I need to do the same thing. By the way, I'm just like you - when things around me are in disarray, I become overwhelmed with pretty much everything else in my life. It's like a dirty house is stressful to me! I need one of these weekends myself - and this weekend just might be it!
Omg what a weekend lol!! I will need to try the chicken and dumplings recipe and print out the menu planner. I have a calendar on the fridge that i use haha!
This is so impressive! Congrats on getting everything done! I bet it feels good to just sit and relax in a clean house! I am loving the menu planner! Pinterest is the best! Hope you are having a fabulous Wednesday!
Ps thanks for stopping by my blog earlier! I cannot wait to read more of yours!
this is such a great way to get started, especially for a husband who speaks excel! thank you so much for sharing. and you have a gorgeous home that I'm sure is even more of a treasure now that it's sparkling clean!
Lilly
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SUPER impressed and getting motivated :-) Serious??--at what point did you decide to see a fertility doc (email me, if you can-- cmcaggie04@hotmail.com)
P.S. I LOVE your front door :-)
I can not tell you how much this sounds like me right now. It's like you just grabbed the thoughts right out of my head!! Soul sisters. :) I literally just made the same exact list of things we need to do to our house that we just haven't had time for. I'm really needing a weekend like your and hopefully I will be feeling just a refreshed.
You are my hero. That is amazing! I am feeling the same way- very overwhelmed, and just wanting to ignore it all. As soon as we get a free weekend, I am so doing this! Thank you for posting! You have totally inspired :)
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